How to stop breastfeeding if my daughter is really addictive to it?

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My daughter is 12 months old and I want to start weaning. She became even more addictive to it recently, that’s why I am not sure how can I do it the least stressful for her.  Leaving her with father even for a few days isn’t an option, she gets really upset without me. Any advice on this?

 

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  1. I know that some people recommend not to replace breast milk with anything and to distract them with toys, but I couldn’t do so. My daughter was too stressed if I wouldn’t feed her at all. I found a way, whenever she asked for feeding, I mixed some banana with unsweetened yogurt and gave to her. For the first few times she had some breast milk afterwards anyway, but in about a week it was enough for her. We got rid of afternoon nursing sessions very quickly and then eventually I breastfed only before sleep. No one helped me to distract her or anything like that, I’ve done it on my own. I think it’s better to replace breastfeeding sessions with some other food than keeping them hungry… Good luck with your weaning!

  2. Is it really necessary to stop breastfeeding now? I think if you have a chance to wait a little bit more, then it’s better if you don’t rush with it. Those are the best times so make them last as long as your baby wants and then stop whenever she is ready.

  3. You should make sure she doesn’t get to sleep hungry otherwise she will wake up in the middle of the night and ask to be fed. You can feed her some porridge before putting in bed. When you stop breastfeeding her in the evening, it will be easier to stop at all during the daytime.

  4. I know that many mothers start with removing night feedings first, but for me it was easier to do that in the end. The first week of weaning I got rid of one BF session during the afternoon (my baby almost didn’t notice, she was very distracted playing), next week I removed one more session during the evening and on the third week I stopped breastfeeding her before bed (the hardest one) and replaced it with solid feedings. You should be very patient, offer her some water, play with her, sing.. whatever works the best. Don’t use ignoring methods, it will be even worse.

  5. I stopped one step at a time. First to get rid of the night feedings, I held him in my arms and gave him a bottle with formula. In a few days I put him in the crib and gave another bottle –  he didn’t want to drink it first, but then hunger took over and he drank it all. After we stopped breastfeeding completely, he started sleeping better and almost didn’t wake up at night. I always put a bottle with formula next to him in case he wakes up, then he could just drink it in case he was hungry.

  6. I am sorry for saying this, but the creator of this post didn’t ask if she should stop breastfeeding or not, she asked “How to stop breastfeeding?”. She probably has her own reasons why she decided to stop and we are here to help her to find the best way to do that. It’s her daughter and it’s her right to decide when to stop. Also, her daughter is 1 year old which isn’t too early. I know some mothers that stopped after 7-8 months and their doctors approved it.
    Now, Monique, you should really think about what is the best way for your daughter. You are right that you don’t want to leave her for this period of time, as she would think that mommy forgot about her. It would be fine though if by the usual time of the nursing you saw her less often. Try to make solid food more attractive to her, maybe add some new ingredients, mix new tastes that she hasn’t tried yet. When it comes to the night feeding, start giving her less breast milk every day and if she looks hungry still, then give her some formula or solids. Ask other family members to entertain and distract her if she looks unhappy with her meal.
    Good luck with it!

    • Oh, it’s okay! I am happy that my question had such a good feedback anyway and it’s interesting to read about experience of the others. They are right that it would be probably for the best to wait a little longer and also I agree that I will be missing breastfeeding! It’s such a lovely time for a mother and her child! But you’re right too, that I have my own reasons to start weaning.
      Thank you for your advice! You wrote such an extended answer! I am going to try everything that you recommended there! 🙂

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